Thinking Like A Man...In A Woman's World

He goes to the Salon to get eyebrows shaped,  a manicure, pedicure, and a facial....how cool, how sexy, and manly is he?

Todays man is very different from the men  I grew up with. Although I saw my father, uncles, and male cousins keep their nails clipped and cleaned.....their toe nails cut...and their faces soapy washed....the thought of them going to a salon for such...grooming... wasn't even an idea, a thought...not even a bad one.

So when and how did this new "MAN" emerge from the midst of us? My sons, my nephews, your man, your baby, your boo, your husbands, our male friends, our men in the office, our Thinking Like A Man...In A Woman's World...MEN....where did they come from?

What does a man like this think when he is sitting there....in the center of all the ladies...nails and fingers gently soaking....feet being massaged....and face wonderfully being turned into an amazingly gorgeousness of himself   When I was in high school.....grooming was part of the curriculum....like reading, writing, and arithmetic.  It was an embarrassment...not be cleaned, manicured, and well-groomed.         The well-groomed....clean/neat guys...got the girls.

It's so crazy...to hear my daughters...who are both in their thirties talk about how a guy looks like he smells...based on how well-groomed he looks........Come on ladies, this is a Women's World.....ARE YOU HELPING YOUR GUY GET HIS ...GROOM ON"?                                                            Maybe he isn't a salon kind of guy. How about creating a salon day for him at home or his place?

Think Like A Man's Manicure

What you'll need

• Cotton pads (don't use cotton balls, which have too much lint.)
• Orangewood stick
• Emery board
• Warm water in a bowl (you can add scented oils or salt.)
• Base coat (optional)

1.  Do not use nail clippers, instead file the edge of your nail at a 45° angle. Hold the emery board flat against the edge of your nail.
   File at a 45° angle.Tip: File in one direction toward the center. Avoid painful hangnail by not filing too deeply at the sides. Ideally, men's nails should show a semicircle of white nail ¼ inch beyond the fingertip.
2. Should  you prefer, you can cut his nails with manicuring scissors. While not as precise as filing, cutting is a faster procedure (and the risk of tearing a nail with nail scissors is minimal, as most men have short nails). Just be sure to buy a really good pair of nail scissors. A good one should last a lifetime and really makes this procedure easier and much safer.
   Trim with scissors.
3. Apply a small amount of cuticle serum, oil or cream to each nail.
   Rub oil into the cuticle.
4. Soak in dishwashing liquid and warm water for about ten minutes. This softens the cuticle, loosens any dirt lodged under and around the nail, and removes any little filing particles that might still be on his nails.
   Soak for ten minutes.
5. Use a soft flat nail brush to scrub his nails as well as the skin on his hands.
   Scrub his nails.
6. A pumice stone moistened in the warm water can soften rough edges around his fingernails as well as any calluses on his palms and fingers. Pumice also removes most stains.....where soap miss.
   Use a pumice stone.Should he need any additional cuticle pushing at the base of the nail, gently use an orange stick or an implement that has a rubber point. Avoid a metal instrument here.
   Use an orange stick.
7. Dry his hands thoroughly and gently push back the cuticle at the base of his nails with a washcloth. Apply cuticle remover (preferably a cream or oil type) and gently push back the cuticle with a cotton-wrapped orange stick, as the cuticle rim at the base of the nail is delicate and is there to protect the nail bed. Do not use a metal cuticle pusher.
8. Cut only hang nails with a cuticle scissors or trimmers, but do not cut the rim that protects the nail bed. Wash off any cuticle remover from the nail, as this is a strong chemical and should not be left on the nails.
   Trim  cuticles.
9. Clean under the nail with an orange stick...for stubborn stains or dirt that has remained imbedded under the nail for some time, dip the cotton-wrapped stick  in hydrogen peroxide. Rinse off.
10. Apply hand cream or lotion at this stage
11. Buff nails to improve circulation and smooth the appearance of the nail's surface. Buff in one direction only to prevent the nail from getting too hot.  Buff for a nice shine.

Now it is time for him to show his thanks and appreciation.....no details, please....this is a G-rated blog.

Enjoy your Thinking Like A Man...In A Woman's World moment with your special someone and Celebrate...with me....every guy who loves himself enough to stay well-groomed

Wetter Water for your Hair!

You drink eight glasses of water every day. So, why do you have DRY SCALP AND HAIR? You moisture your hair with the best hair conditioners, treatments,  pomades and ointments you can afford. You don't use drying and stripping shampoos and conditioners. So why the dry hair and scalp?.....You are DRY because your scalp and hair needs to be hydrated. Your scalp and  hair is thirsty. When water is not wet and heavy enough and cannot get into the hair root, the nutrients

( vitamins and minerals) that feed the cells and eventually the roots cannot feed the scalp and hair.....to make the hair shaft hydrated and healthy. AND...although great for the scalp and hair... oils, conditioners, and lotions do not deeply moisten and hydrate scalp or hair either, so what does.

Let's talk about hydration. Hydration for scalp and hair is not just about water, it is about moisture. This is moisture that can go into each hair root, way down into the microscopic cells of where the body receives all nutrition and hydration. Most water is not heavy or wet enough. What am I talking about? When it became necessary to clean and recycle our drinking water, most of the natural minerals and nutrients were lost. The Soil and Water we drink...years ago, use to supply enough minerals to #1) eat away toxic waste surrounding our cells, #2) have enough weight to penetrate through the cell walls, and #3) would quench the thirst of every cell in our bodies.....This is very rare today and can no longer be found in the water in our homes.

The answer is to hydrate your water with good balanced water enhancers. This is about more than vitamin and mineral waters......Please find and use an enhancer/supplement that comes as a whole foods, such as fruits and vegetables. Once you eat these foods whole or squeeze into your water as a natural enhancer ( watermelons, grapes, honeydew, cantaloupes, pears, and cucumbers)...   ...you will know it, your brain, heart, and kidneys will let you know you are hydrated. Your hair will begin to feel soft, strong, pliable, and stretch without breaking. Continue to drink your six to eight glasses of water no matter what, as you add natural fruit and vegetable enhancers to your hair and beauty regime.  ...use natural oils and ointments such as Moroccan argan, almond, coconut, olive, and rose. The two liquid nutrients I highly recommend and use are: Samson's Secret and Fortune Delight.

E-mail me at rafreekah@gmail.com ...ASK ME about these naturally amazing and organic whole grade liquid foods and how you can receive great discounts.

Welcome to Love Court III 04/23 by Jacqueline E Rozier | Blog Talk Radio

Welcome to Love Court III 04/23 by Jacqueline E Rozier | Blog Talk Radio

ARE YOU GUILTY FOR LOVING YOURSELF? CAN YOU PROVE IT?

Daddy Does Her Hair

    Daddy does her hair. WOW!!! I decided to do a search about Daddys and Fathers doing their little girls hair. I was  blown away. I am so proud of these guys. Talking about someone being in-touch with his feminine side. Not only does he need to understand her hair and all of the products, designs, and girly-things.......he must know her..... her personality, what she likes and does not like, her sensitivities, and her admiration for her "Dad".

How protected she must feel. She already knows what it feels like to be appreciated, complimented and adored. The guy or guys who step to her will know immediately...that she knows what love and being loved feels and looks like.

 Whether single or married....I am sure that these little ladies...will grow up knowing how to be treated by a man. Because I was molested by my father when I was a little girl...I know the importance of the right touch. At the age of nineteen...the  Heavenly Father...My Abba Daddy of the universe... healed my heart, mind, and relationship with my earthly father. My father was an alcoholic, who struggled with rejection, abandonment and abuse himself...and did not even remember his actions. However, before you go through too many changes...I forgave my father completely and he learned how to love and touch me the way a father should.  I gave him the gift of forgiveness and God gave me the gift to heal, forever. Today I feel amazing and whole. I've written a book titled...Childhood Confessions...to be released by end of this year...and in it I have dedicated a poem to honor our healings. Be blessed:

FATHERS ARE THE GREATEST GIFT

A DAUGHTER CAN RECEIVE

A FATHER’S BLOODLINE AND HEART’S INTENT

DIRECTS HER DESTINY

IT MATTERS NOT WHO YOU ARE

OR WHY YOU MADE THE CHOICE

TO GIVE SEED, AND DNA

YOUR DAUGHTER’S HEART MUST HEAR YOUR VOICE

 

GIVE YOUR VOICE LOVINGLY

SPEAK WORDS OF CARE AND TRUTH

YOUR DAUGHTER’S HERE BECAUSE YOU GAVE HER BIRTH

SO TOUCH HER WITH A FATHER’S LOVE

AND SUPPORT HER IN HER YOUTH

GIVE YOUR HEART TOTALLY

LET EACH BEAT SPEAK OF LIFE

YOUR DAUGHTER NEEDS YOU TO SHOW HER

HOW TO BECOME SOMEONE’S WIFE

 

GIVE YOUR STRENGTH CONSTANTLY

PROTECT HER MIND AND SOUL

YOUR DAUGHTER’S NATURAL TENDERNESS AND CURIOSITY

WILL FOLLOW WHERE YOU GO

FATHERS ARE THE GREATEST GIFT

A DAUGHTER CAN RECEIVE

A FATHER’S BLOODLINE AND HEART’S INTENT

DIRECTS HER DESTINY

 So, I Celebrate and say Thank You....All Dads for doing your little girl(s) hair. You are special Heroes...This shows your strength...your tenderness...and your manhood.

"Fathers are the Special Effects in a Child's Life", Just Sayy It Collection 

Samsons Secret created by a Dad, who also understands his daughter's hair needs. Thanks Mr. Barton Griffin, owner and developer of www.samsonssecret.com    Check it out! 

Welcome to the Love Court II 04/17 by Jacqueline E Rozier | Blog Talk Radio

Welcome to the Love Court II 04/17 by Jacqueline E Rozier | Blog Talk RadioImagine being arrested for loving yourself

Would there be enough evidence to convict you?

Review: Love Court I

What does my name mean?

What is my favorite color?

Do I drink enough water everyday?

Love Court II

I LOVE MYSELF

For I know and live my private self and public self as ONE

I LOVE MYSELF

I know I am G.I.F.T. God's Investment For Today

I LOVE MYSELF

Military Hair

  Everything and everyone can be trained...including your hair. Most can train their hair to do whatever they want....it's all in the how.

As a hair treatment specialist, I have trained many heads of hair. And just as in the military's six weeks basic training....I have discovered that six weeks is the perfect amount of time for any change you decide to make with your hair. Whether it is a new look.....from coloring, cutting, straightening, curling....OR...it's dealing with a challenge....such as dandruff, hair loss, hair that will not curl, or hair that will not straighten, and shedding,....it has only taken me six weeks to correct and manage the challenge....hence the term...Military Hair

The greatest challenge is you and I being patient. Isn't it amazing how we spend weeks, months, and years with a situation and then we want it gone and improved over night?

The basic chemical structure of everyone's hair is SULFUR, CARBON, HYDROGEN, OXYGEN, AND NITROGEN

The average composition of normal hair is composed of  45.2 % carbon, 27.9% oxygen, 6.6% hydrogen, 15.1% nitrogen and 5.2% sulphur.

The basic structure of human hair are:

1)  the outer layer called the cuticle layer...( the outer fish-scale like layers)

This is where most of the non-chemical damage is done. Most of the time when the hair is dull, fly-away, and split...it is because the scale-like cuticle layers of the hair is brokenBefore you get your hair all cut off or shorten.....use special organic keratin/protein shampoos and conditioners to treat the cuticle layers....IT WILL RESTORE ITSELF.

Although hair is not alive once it leaves the root.....it needs "life" or foods/PROTEIN chemicals that are alive to feed and restore it. SPECIAL NOTE: CHEMICAL IS NOT A BAD WORD OR THING....AFTER ALL WATER IS WHAT........H2O...A CHEMICAL. EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS CREATED WITH ENERGY AND CHEMICALS....YOU AND I ARE MADE UP OF.......WHAT.......CHEMICALS....SO RELAX......IT'S ALL IN HOW WE USE THEM TOGETHER... TO GET THE GREATEST RESULTS WE WANT

2) the next/second layer is the cortex....Role of protein in the cortex:

( where all your products work, shampoos, conditioners, colors perms & etc)
The middle layer of the hair shaft is the cortex, the most important portion where protein plays an important role

BELOW IS A LITTLE INFORMATION....ON WHY A SIX WEEK MILITARY PROGRAM FOR YOUR HAIR CAN WORK:

The middle layer of the hair, the cortex, is made up of millions of polypeptide chains cross-linked with each other by three different types of side bonds. The bonds that link up the polypeptide chains of the hair are hydrogen, salt and disulfide bonds. Hydrogen bonds account for one-third of the hair's strength. The hydrogen bond is a weak physical side bond that is easily broken by water or heat. Hydrogen bonds can be reformed by drying or cooling the hair. These bonds are very abundant in the hair.

Salt bonds are also weak physical side bonds that can easily broken by weak alkaline or acid solutions and changes in pH. These bonds can be reformed by normalizing the pH level of the hair.

Disulfide bonds are chemical side bonds. These bonds are stronger and fewer than hydrogen and salt bonds and cannot be broken by heat or water. A disulfide bond is joined to the sulphur atoms of two cysteine atoms to create cystine. Although the disulfide bonds are fewer than the physical bonds, they are the key factors in supplying the hair its' strength and durability.

3) and the inner/third is the medulla...( like the bones of the hair shaft)

Examine a cross section of a hair shaft under a microscope, you would see the innermost or center portion of the hair shaft, the medulla. The medulla is also called the pith or marrow of the hair. It is composed of round cells, two to five rows across. Thick or coarse hair usually contains a medulla. Fine hair for the most part lacks a medulla, as does naturally blonde hair. The purpose of the medulla has not yet been determined.

Finally, Doing the same thing to your hair every day, week, and month....will remove and handle most problems and at the same time create Military Hair that will serve you well.

I had a hair customer years ago who had been rolling her hair up every night since she was in high school. Now she was married with children and she was still doing the same thing...every night. needless to say her husband pleaded with her to find another way to bed her hair. I mean who wants to jump out of bed after great passion and roll their hair, anyway. So, I put her on my Military Hair Program...and in six weeks she had trained her hair to remain curled without setting it every night. Her hair appointments were about every 3 weeks and she would arrive with a head full of curls without all that setting. The difference was what she was using and how.

**I put her on sponge rollers...first cut and wrapping plastic wrap around each roller...then she had to carefully wrap every inch of the hair shaft, making sure the ends were inside, laying next to the plastic wrapped sponge. Last, she had to use small to medium sections of hair to roll...NO, large sections, please. MOST IMPORTANTLY: She had to commit to this process EVERY night...no excuses and no exception. IT WORKED! She was and is a very happy person...and so is her hubby.**

This is one example of how a six-week Military Hair Program works. So whether you want to fix a problem....manage a challenge...or just make improvements....Military Hair is for you.

I always highly recommend Samson's Secret for all your hair needs. Email me for special discounts at rafreekah@gmail.com and visit www.samsonssecret.com

Un-Be-Weavable

 A good weave or not so good weave...that is the question. Are you a member of the Un-Be-Weavable Club? Why are so many women wearing weaves, Really? My theory is about one-third wear weaves for health and cosmetic reasons...one third wears weaves for fun...and one third wears weaves...wait for it.........................................cause I'm just too lazy to work on my own hair.

For those who must wear weaves...things to keep in mind:

#1) A great weave is put on a great head of hair. Keep your own hair in tip-top shape...at all times.

#2) It's a weave...not your hair...Please, please remove weave every 6-8 weeks tops

#3) Keep your weave clean....wash every week...with gentle moisturizing shampooing, followed by a leave in conditioner

#4) For African Americans, keep scalp moisturized with natural oils...not too much, a little goes a long way

#5) I know you want to sleep...and look cute, however weave hair is treated with a chemical for health safety and it tangles and mats easily...so   tie your head with a scarf...do it cute...he won't mind. Should he mind ask him to take care of the bill the next time it must be done

#6) Keep it trimmed...take off a little every two weeks to keep it looking nice

#7) Buy the best...it will last the longest

Be mindful...this is for those who are serious about their weaves and want to make the most of her investment.

For those who wear weaves for fun....see the information above....just add the following:

Remember...just as I shared in my blog..."The Other Crack"....once you go there it is hard to stop....especially when you abuse your own hair. Think about the consequences and why you are wearing weaves....it's usually for him. That's OK...just make sure you want the same thing for yourself. A good weave can be a little pricey. So you decide to let your creative girlfriend put your weave in or you decide to put it in yourself....again not a problem....just follow my 7 points.

For those who wear weaves because you are lazy....or have low self-love.....

It would be wiser and less expensive to go to a salon for special hair growth conditioners and treatments. A temporary weave will help with the transition. Again as India Arie sang..."I Am Not My Hair".....Should you really not be able to live without hair down your back... or upon your shoulders.....wear a wig....it is a good replacement, while you work on your own hair. It can be fun having so many looks...without damaging your hair, Think about it.

Finally...a smelly. old. unprofessional, damaging weave is really, really Un=Be-Weavable to everyone who loves you and sees you. Don't be a member of the Un-Be-Weavable Club.

Mo' Better Hair

 Last evening, while watching a television program, my 32 years young daughter became quite annoyed by seeing this absolutely beautiful woman wearing a wig that was too much and not at all flattering. She turned to me and said...please write a blog on how to wear wigs and hair pieces....so here it is....Mo' Better Hair. 

In years past...wigs and hairpieces are primarily accessories...however they have become a staple for many... along with the fact that they are a blessing for those who had and have cancer and other challenging chronic health issues.

The average person usually purchases Wigs and Hairpieces for emergencies, quick fixes, a new look, another look, enhancements, and the list goes on.

I have been wearing hairpieces since I was in high school, 1970....a very long time. My main reason at that time was how much fun I had matching my hair styles, aka wigs...to match my outfits. I had a blast...short one day, long the next day, curls one day, and on and on.

This happened as a result of working in the wig department at the department store while I was a senior in high school. It turned out that I have a natural gift when comes to choosing the perfect color and style for myself and others. I was so good that a customer sent the department store owner a letter thanking me for the great service and personal attention given her...when she purchased her wig. Well, right after I graduated college...I went to cosmetology school and now I am almost 40 years in the hair and beauty industry.

 I've  decided to Google the internet and share my personal testimony and forward the five following websites.

Most people do not believe I have on a wig when they meet me. That is because I do not treat a wig....like a wig. I treat a wig like it is my own hair.

I cut, style and curl....I use great shampoos and conditioners...(The same products I would use on my own hair)...I wear hats and scarves, head-bands, flowers, and any type of hair ornament I chose.

I choose colors that really compliment both my complexion and my wardrobe.

I take care of my hairpieces and wigs daily, weekly, and monthly. I comb and brush daily what I wear. I use electric rollers on my synthetic pieces to refresh them...after washing them. After they are dry and styled, again... I store them in a container. Again I care for them like they are my own hair. 

So, whether you are wearing wigs and hairpieces or you know someone who has to wear wigs or hairpieces...be mindful that what we think is what we are... and do not treat a wig and hairpiece like a wig or hat or something that is fake and a bother....the energy and message is what others receive from us. When you focus on and act like you are wearing a wig or hairpiece, people will focus on and treat you like you are wearing one.

RELAX, anyway...it's just a wig...it's just a hairpiece. Like India Arie sang..."I Am Not My Hair".....You are not your wig and hairpiece.

Finally, You may be able to find a salon or ask your own stylist about customizing your wig and hairpieces  for you. The great thing about buying a wig and hairpiece today is... they are made in hundreds of lengths, styles, and colors......and even the prices are great, now. So, there you have it...for Mo' Better Hair....wigs and hairpieces....make it you...make it yours....make it Mo' Better!

The following website have great information about wigs 

http://www.wigsalon.com/prowig.html

http://voices.yahoo.com/how-choose-most-natural-wig-you-365020.html?cat=69

http://www.headcovers.com/wig_faq.php

http://123wigs.com/wigstore/help/infocenter/choosing_a_wig.asp 

http://ceko.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Pick-The-Right-Wig

Websites for wearing hairpiece

http://www.ehow.com/how_2058547_choose-hair-piece.html

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Choose-the-Perfect-Hairpiece&id=1314840

http://www.hairdirect.com/hair/piece/default.aspx